The Invitation by Oriah Mountain
Dreamer
It doesn't interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for
and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's
longing.
It doesn't interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for
love,
for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.
It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your
moon.
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your
own sorrow,
if you have been opened by life's betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed from fear of
further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your
own,
without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own;
if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill
you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic,
remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true
to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not
betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty every day.
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and
mine,
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon, 'Yes.'
It doesn't interest me to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair,
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done to feed the children.
It doesn't interest me who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.
It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you
have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when
all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if
you truly like the company you keep in the empty
moments.
One Warm Line - Rev. Allison Barrett
People, we have hit the big time! The day before the
Sunday morning worship of our national conference, Tom,
Harpur, our country’s most prolific and well-known
writer on religion, writes an article in the Toronto
Star that might as well be an advertisement for our
faith. He says, among many other things, that there are
"hundreds of thousands of Canadians currently looking
for a spiritual home…" and that Unitarians, "Canada’s
most unusual religion" "face a unique opportunity to
fill the growing spiritual vacuum." If I hadn’t been out
at a coffee house kind of late last night, I would have
phoned up Tom Harpur myself, both to thank him and to
invite him to church this morning!
Where I come from up the Ottawa valley, kids spend
hours in the summer trying to catch minnows with a
little net that you pull up and small pieces of bread
that you use for bait. As anyone who’s ever tried knows,
this is a two person job; one to chase the minnows into
the net and the other one to pull it up at just the
right time. Well folks, Tom Harpur just sent a giant
school of minnows swimming in our direction. The
question is, what will happen when they get there?
I ask this because in some ways, this is the heart of
why we are gathered here, getting to know one another
and the world we serve as religious people. We are
gathered this weekend - to learn and grow, to inspire
and inform, so that when we go back to our own
congregations, we have a message for our city or
neighbourhood that is so compelling that people will not
be able to resist taking up our song.
There’s only one challenge that I can see, and that
is that we are the Canadian Unitarian Council.
That means (for those of you who haven’t had your coffee
yet) that we are both Canadian, and Unitarian. (And by
the way before I go any further, I’m just going to say
that what ever term I use, Unitarian, Universalist,
Unitarian Universalist this morning… I mean the same
thing… Just like how "mankind" includes women, and
gentlemen, when we say ladies, we mean you, too!)
It’s true that Canada is a beautiful spiritual
country, a land where if we had written the story, the
holy spirit would be not a dove, but a great blue heron;
and the rock upon which we built our house a beautiful
piece of Canadian shield with a red pine tree growing
from it. This is Canada, the country where your dog gets
a free timbit at the Tim Horton’s drive through, the
country who answers Santa’s mail, for heaven’s sake, as
long as you get the postal code right HO HO HO.
But this is Canada, where when the CBC holds a
contest to come up with an expression for Canada similar
to "As American as apple pie" the winning entry is "As
Canadian as possible under the circumstances." Writer
Margaret Atwood says that the dominant theme of Canadian
life is "survival." There’s a rallying cry for you! I
know life can be hard in this tough land, but is that
really the best we can do? When I was a hospital
chaplain, "failure to thrive" was a euphemism for having
(as we also say up the valley) "one foot in the grave
and the other on a banana peel." It’s barely surviving.
Is that who we are, more importantly, who we want to be?
On top of that, we’re Unitarian. And I want to tell
you a story that illustrates what I believe has stood
between our religion’s worthy goals and the kind of
vitality of which Tom Harpur speaks.
Once upon a time a young Rabbi was called to a new
congregation. During the Friday service, half the
congregation stood for prayers and half remained seated;
with both sides shouting that theirs was the true
tradition. Nothing the young Rabbi did could break the
impasse, so finally, in desperation, he sought out the
90 year old Rabbi who had been a founding member of the
synagogue.
"So tell me," he pleaded, "Is it the tradition for
the congregation to stand during the prayers?" "No,"
answered the old Rabbi. "Ah, so then it is the tradition
to sit during the prayers?" "No," answered the old
Rabbi. "Well," the young man responded, "what we have
now is complete chaos! Half the people stand and shout,
the other half sit and yell." "Ah, Yes" said the old
Rabbi "That is our tradition!"
Too long, too long, people - as Unitarians has this
been our tradition… and too long as religious people,
has this been our tradition, and too long – My God, how
long, since the beginning of time – has this been our
human tradition? Absolutely no later than now must we
seek a new way… we owe it to the world to start a new
tradition…because O Siem, we are one family, we sing
with one voice, we gather under one sky and look up at
the same stars.
Do you remember the first time you saw that
incredible picture of the world taken from the moon or
space? Everyone is in the picture! The photographer
didn’t even have to say "OK, guys, squeeze in." We’re
all in it. People, now is the time when we must meet
each other beyond the field of right and wrong. The fate
of our world and our planet depends on it. This kind of
radical vision, radical love was best expressed for me
in the words of Bill Laferla of this congregation, words
I find so moving - who endured with good nature, as he
said, years of being our "token gay" male…. When we were
walking our church through the steps of becoming a
Welcoming Congregation Bill said "We have to make
room for the people who are still uncomfortable with
me." That is the place we need to meet.
Our meeting this weekend is one way of meeting there.
As Canadian UUs, gathered here at our National
Conference, welcoming friends from far away… we have
come from across the country to form "One Warm Line"
like the Stan Rogers song says, "through a land so wild
and savage."
And our religion chooses to bend that warm line into
a circle that expands ever outward, including all who
would share in a vision of One World… because you see,
it doesn’t interest me whether you are a fellowship of
50 or a church of 500…it doesn’t interest me whether you
are old or young… and it sort of doesn’t interest me
whether you are a Unitarian or a Universalist, a
Christian, a Pagan or a Humanist, a Muslim, a Buddhist
or Jew, and it doesn’t interest me whether you call it
God or Goddess, Spirit of Life, Human Conscience, Mother
Earth or the Universe… I just want to know how you
are going to stand in the service of something greater
than yourself, and make your life matter… I just
want to know (like Mary Oliver) "what it is you plan to
do with your one wild and precious life."
A. Powell Davies, the minister of All Souls church,
our congregation in Washington DC said in a sermon once:
"Do you belong to a religion that says that humankind is
not divided, except by ignorance and prejudice and hate;
the religion that sees humankind as naturally one and
waiting to be spiritually united; the religion that
proclaims an end to all exclusions – and declares a
brotherhood and sisterhood unbounded! The religion that
knows we shall never find the fullness of the wonder and
the glory of life until we are ready to share it, that
we shall never have hearts big enough for the love of
God until we have made them big enough for the worldwide
love of one another.
As you have listened to me, have you thought
perchance that this is your religion? If so, do not
congratulate yourself. Stop long enough to recollect the
miseries of the world in which you live; the fearful
cruelties, the enmities, the hate, the bitter
prejudices, the need of such a world for such a faith.
And if you can still say that this of which I have
spoken is your faith, then ask yourself this question:
What are you doing with it?
UU Edward Everett Hale said "I am only one. But still
I am one. Je ne suis que moi, une suele personne. Mais
quand meme, je suis une personne. I cannot
do everything. Je ne peux pas tout faire. But still I
can do something. Mais je peux quand meme faire quelque
chose. And because I cannot do everything… Et parce que
je ne peux pas tout faire… I will not refuse to do the
something that I can do. Je ne refuserai pas de faire ce
que je peux faire."
As Canadian Unitarians, we are a statistically small
group of people. In fact, we are tiny. OK, actually, you
need an electron microscope to see what we are doing
most of the time. But that is no excuse in the world of
faith, which is after all an ephemeral endeavour; I know
it disappears like the water on the road along the
Trans-Canada Highway; the nearer you try to get, the
less you can see it, but that does not matter. Things
like love and justice, hope and meaning cannot be
measured on any scale yet invented. We cannot do
everything, but we can do some things, and because we
cannot do everything, we cannot refuse to do the things
we can do.
Lieutenant Romeo Dallaire (who knows a thing or two
about what you can and can’t do) said when he spoke here
in Hamilton… that we have a unique role as Canadians to
be a Middle Power… it’s not an extravagant claim, but
there is resolve and strength, humility and grace,
flexibility and persuasion in being a Middle Power. We
are not burdened by the costs (fiscal and otherwise) of
being a superpower, nor are we under-resourced like
peoples struggling to survive. We have middle power as
Canadians and we have it as Unitarian Universalists –
and it is the responsibility to do that one thing we can
do.
We begin by claiming our power as Canadians and as
Unitarians… and we do that by not playing small, by
starting a new tradition. Marianne Williamson says ""Our
deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest
fear is that we are powerful beyond measure… We are all
meant to shine, as children do…It's not just in some of
us; it's in everyone. Your playing small doesn't serve
the world." Our playing small as a religion doesn’t
serve the world. So we need to dream bigger dreams if we
want to really "be the change we want to see." What does
your congregation need to do to dream big dreams for its
ministry? And who and what are standing in the way, and
what do you need to do to change that?
The world needs our help, because it is a strange
place these days. Maybe it always was, I don’t know, but
it seems even stranger these days. It’s a strange world
for people who value the democratic process; a world
where we voted to keep our country together with an
overwhelming 50.6 % victory, and ten years later…support
has swelled to a tie! A world where the one with the
least votes gets to be President of the most powerful
country in the world, and 5 years later opts out of
every peacemaking body and covenant we have - the United
Nations, the International Court, The Kyoto Accord – and
still claims to have the monopoly on democracy, peace
and freedom in the world.
This is not the freedom to which our values speak -
our religious values – all of the religious peoples of
the world’s values. True freedom is freedom from hunger,
freedom from exploitation, freedom from isolation,
freedom from poverty, freedom from fear. These freedoms
comprise our religious vision of a world made fair, with
all her people one.
This is a strange world for people who value living
together in peace with their neighbours of every stripe,
glorying in natural and human diversity, marveling at
difference with the curiosity and joy of a child. I
remember a few years back a wonderful bumper sticker
that said "My karma ran over your dogma!" I thought
that’s the way the world was going. But no, it seems
that somehow the dogma is running over the karma again.
Theocracies are popping up here and here, …down there,
and I don’t mean hell (south of here, but still north of
hell) - where our good- hearted UU friends are often
wringing their hands…saying what one thing can we do in
this place, in this time?
There’s a culture of fear afoot in this world that
wants to unlearn every good lesson, undo every tie that
binds, loosen the threads that hold us together, destroy
every bridge we’ve built. Your world needs you to hold
out something different, shining, resilient.
"Courage my friends," said Tommy Douglas – it is not too
late to make a better world." This is the reason of
cities, of homes, of assemblies in the houses of
worship.
I know you are only one, but if you ever doubt the
impact that one independent-minded, stubborn, eccentric
human being can have in this world, think of Lotta
Hitchmanova, or Tommy Douglas, (who was responsible for
Universalist health care – thank you Tommy!)
think of Terry Fox, or the lone student in Tiannamen
Square facing down the tank; think of Jesus of Nazareth,
or Nellie McClung, (who made me a person, thank you
Nellie!) Think of Bonnie Cappucino, or for that matter
think of Chuck Cadman, next time you say to yourself
"But I am only one…."
Do the one thing you can do, or even as Eleanor
Roosevelt said, sometimes you must do the thing you
think you cannot do.
I don’t know what your one thing is; but that’s your
job, that’s your one thing - to figure it out.
And this Unitarian community exists to companion you
while you find out what it is. And even if you’ve
already done a lot, I’m here to remind you as a wise one
once said "If you ask me when your task on earth is
finished, the answer is – if you’re alive, it isn’t."
I don’t know what your one thing is. Maybe like Susan
Walsh, it’s visiting Ethiopia, Mali or Bangladesh to put
your cherished values into action one person, one farm,
one clinic at a time. Maybe it’s trying to sew the
world’s longest rainbow banner and sending it on a bus
all the way from Calgary, and carrying it like the
ribbon of grace and affirmation that it is, and laying
it down with the preciousness with which we hold each
other.
Maybe it’s singing your heart out at a coffee house,
or connecting with your Unitarian brothers and sisters
from Budapest, Boston, or Cuba, or reaching out to your
interfaith neighbours across the street to say "Isn’t
there more among us than between us?" Isn’t it
one God, one world, one light shining through all our
windows, one source of Love?
I don’t know exactly what justice and equity look
like where you live, but you do. I just know that the
Cree of Northern Quebec and the Innu of Labrador, the
Iranian Doctor driving cab in Toronto to feed his
family…the aboriginal community in Saskatoon, and the
women of Vancouver’s East Side, are in need of it, and
if that’s where you live, making justice there could be
your one thing.
Maybe it’s a very small thing, a tiny random act of
kindness or senseless act of beauty that will make all
the difference in someone’s life – and you may never
even know how or why, because we’re all just passing it
around anyway, and it doesn’t matter, except that you do
it. There IS more love somewhere; if we create it, we
will find it.
Emily Dickinson who lived her whole life
circumscribed by the boundaries of home, garden and
church, wrote: "If I can stop one heart from breaking, I
shall not live in vain; If I can ease one life the
aching, Or cool one pain, Or help one fainting robin
Into his nest again, I shall not live in vain."
I don’t know what it is you need to do; I only know
that we need each other to get through this life,
because it’s a wild ride; life is a wild ride.
It takes you from the sublime to the ridiculous, from
the sacred to the mundane, often in dizzying order, and
you know exactly what I mean, those of you who stood in
silence a few minutes ago, and those who didn’t. We live
and reason between a world of order and chaos, a world
that’s messy and frayed and torn around the edges, and
you never know what is around the corner. You lose your
job, you lose your way, you lose your mind… you find a
friend, you find hope, you find a lump…you try your
hardest and fail, and are dealt the unthinkable
diagnosis, the irreparable tear, the seemingly endless
defeat.
But somehow, somehow, some radical Love finds
you in your family of friends, in your spiritual home,
in the world community and calls to you, and because you
cannot do everything,
you cannot refuse to do the thing you can do.
We UUs do not claim to know the answers to life’s
most perplexing questions, or as I say to my Christian
colleagues in my local clergy group "Hey, we could all
be working for a boss who doesn’t exist!" Or maybe not,
you know. But the good news of this faith is worth
sharing with the world… the good news that
everyone’s love is worth celebrating, that people are
essentially good, that a spiritual mosaic is more
beautiful than a spiritual monolith… the good news that
all people on this earth are seeking the same truth -
seeking that One Truth that both transcends and includes
all truths – that it is not only found on the cross, by
zam zam or under the Bodhi tree, but in every human
heart and in every particle of the universe..
When we unwind the warm line we have formed this
weekend, and you go back to your people, and look for
that Blue Heron heading out over open water, I hope you
will take with you a radical hope, a radical vision, a
radical love for this faith of ours and for this world.
I hope that you promise to do the one thing that you and
your people can do.
UU Minister Ralph Waldo Emerson said… "To leave the
world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden
patch or a redeemed social condition; To know even one
life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is
to have succeeded." When all the people of the world
join in this song – that’s when we’ll be free. So may it
be, and Amen.